Dearly beloved we are gathered here today in the sight of God and this company to join this man and this woman in the bonds of holy matrimony…
Do you remember your wedding day? Were you excited? nervous? afraid or apprehensive? Do you remember how beautiful your wife looked walking down the isle? How handsome your husband looked in his tux?
Do you remember your vows?
“Jason, wilt thou have Tresha to be thy wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance, in the holy estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?”
“Tresha, wilt thou have Jason to be thy wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance, in the holy estate of matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honor and keep him, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?”
Now fast forward a year, 7 years, 20 years, do you still feel the same as you did on your wedding day? Why or why not? Are you more in love or less? There’s probably been some richer and poorer(especially if you have kids), there’s been some sickness, there’s been some challenges along the way. Husbands have you been keeping your vows? Loving, honoring, comforting… Wives how are you doing loving, honoring, respecting(obeying and serving)?
21 Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. 24 And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ.
25 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. 26 He did this to dedicate the church to God by his word, after making it clean by washing it in water, 27 in order to present the church to himself in all its beauty—pure and faultless, without spot or wrinkle or any other imperfection. 28 Men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. (29 None of us ever hate our own bodies. Instead, we feed them, and take care of them, just as Christ does the church; 30 for we are members of his body.) 31 As the scripture says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.” 32 There is a deep secret truth revealed in this scripture, which I understand as applying to Christ and the church. 33 But it also applies to you: every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband. (GNT)
Love and Respect, the two most important ingredients to a successful marriage. Are you showing your spouse love and respect? If not, why not? You might say they don’t deserve it or they haven’t earned it, or they aren’t treating you the way you want to be treated, etc…. Stop the insanity cycle and treat them with love and respect because God has said to do so, you may just be surprised they were feeling the same way about you and start treating you differently as well.